Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Wedding Wednesday - Vows

It's my favorite day of the week in blogland - Wedding Wednesday. I'm not sure why but I'm just wedding obsessed lately. Oh, I guess it might be because I'm only 8 months away from my own big day! ;)

This weekend my soon to be BIL got married to my soon to be SIL and their wedding was our big mile marker. We knew once their wedding passed ours would be the focus and this is SO exciting! I'm so stinking blessed with my soon to be in-laws. All of Mr.'s siblings are amazing! We all get a long so well and I can not be more excited to marry into his amazing family!

So, with that being said my soon to be BIL & SIL had a beautiful ceremony. They had an awesome chaplin (who we are now trying to get officiate our wedding too) he was super friendly, personable, and served in Iraq with my BILTB last year. Their vows were personal to them and their readings were beautiful. It was perfect for them.

I too want Mr. and I to have our perfect ceremony. I have been researching vows for months! I have been watching bridal shows, stalking The Knot and writing down any lines I love and that we could incorporate. I know there are a traditional few lines I want us to use and few that I would rather substitute with something that I feel is more fitting for us. For instance I would rather use "in good times and in bad" than for "better or worse" and "as long as we both shall live" instead of  "until death do us part".  There is one very popular line that I am hearing people are wanting to use, myself included, Bethenny Frankel used this line in her vows when she wed Jason Hoppy,  "From this day forward, you shall not walk alone, my heart will be your shelter, and my arms will be your home". I feel that this line is so beautiful and so true to the commitment you are making when you become husband and wife. You really are promising that not matter what happens you're not alone anymore. I have him to lean on in tough times and he has me to lean on as well. However, this is true for the great times too. We will always have great times and memories to share with each other.

Now, for the readings.. If you remember this post  I talked about my MIL having an issue with our plan to wed outside of the Catholic Church. Thank goodness that is resolved for the most part but Mr. and I really wanted to incorporate religion in our ceremony for various reasons.  First and foremost we are both believers in God and we both have, and want to continue to have, a strong relationship with the Lord. Therefore, incorporating Biblical readings is very important to us. However, this is an area where I don't have a verse from the Bible jumping out at me when I think about it. When I think about Bible verses John 3:16 pops into my head and then I start singing "John 3:16 says that God so loved the world he gave his...".....  Do you see the issue that I am having? While I do have a relationship with God and I do believe that the Bible is the word of the Lord I haven't gone to church since I was young. I talk to God daily, I pray, I thank Him for all that He has blessed me with but I don't read His word as often as I should.  This is something I am working on for me. So many of the amazing blogs that I read are written by women who have relationships with God and who read the Bible, so today I am reaching to you, what Bible verses speak to you on marriage? What readings did you use for your own ceremony? Are there readings you've heard recently at a wedding that were beautiful and meaningful?

Did you stick to the traditional vows? Did you put your own spin on the traditional vows or perhaps write your own? Did you have a reading? Was it Biblical or was it just one that spoke out to you on love?

Happy Wednesday :)


  1. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
    Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor.

    For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.

    Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?

    And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.

  2. I have not even gotten to the point in planning to think about what vows we should use. I do feel like I am in the same position as you though; I grew up and went to church every Sunday when I was young, but past the age of 8 our family's attendance to church dramatically declined.
    While Tom and I are getting married in a church, we are not sure what should be said in the vows because while we pray everyday and try to live life as God has planned it for us, we do not have any "favorite" Bible verses or anything like that. In my opinion, the wedding is about love and the two people that are joining as one in front of their friends, family, and God and that whatever is said just needs to be about the day and love.
    PS- I am copying your idea of doing "Wedding Wednesdays" over at my blog! Thank you for the great idea!